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Ichsan Afriadi

Relationships in Islam

Assalamu'alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

Bismillah, "courtship or dating" as it is currently done in much of the world doesn't exist among Muslims. Young Muslim men and women (or boys and girls) don't enter into one-on-one intimate relationships, spending time alone together, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they will marry. Rather, in Islam pre-marital relationships of any kind between members of the opposite sex is forbidden.

The full scope of a relationship between the opposite sex in Islam.

Let's look at the surah An-Nur, ayat 26, 30, and 31.

{26}

الْخَبِيثَاتُ لِلْخَبِيثِينَ وَالْخَبِيثُونَ لِلْخَبِيثَاتِ وَالطَّيِّبَاتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَالطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَاتِ أُولَٰئِكَ مُبَرَّءُونَ مِمَّا يَقُولُونَ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَرِزْقٌ كَرِيمٌ
Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.
{An-Nur 24:26}
{30}

قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ
Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And God is well acquainted with all that they do.
{An-Nur 24:30}
{31}

وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَىٰ عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards God, that ye may attain bliss.
{An-Nur 24:31}
It should always be the goal of any relationship in Islam.

The Prophet Muhammad (the Messenger of Allah) Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” and “Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Shaytan makes a third.”

A muslimah should always remember how 'valuable' she is (like diamonds and gold behind the protective glass casing in the jewelry shop) and to love her dignity and right to be treated with respect.

Use aql (logical mind) to assess your own situation and view it from a muslim tassawur (worldview based on Islam). Ask Allah to guide you and keep you in the world. Remember, Allah created you good so choose always to be good, Insya'Allah.

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I want someone who'll leave this dunya with me, just so we can live happily ever after in Jannah. :-)

5 comments:

O CIKTEDDY

creative pic! bila tengok dah boleh faham.. ^^

حنا فايناشا

"I want someone who'll leave this dunya with me, just so we can live happily ever after in Jannah."

Such perfect beautiful words ♥

intan.maisarah

I want someone who'll leave this dunya with me, just so we can live happily ever after in Jannah.

siapa tidak mahu hubungan sebegitu
aku rasa semua orang mahu begitu

Akhmad Muhaimin Azzet

semoga diri ini dapat menjalin hubungan yang mendapatkan rahmat-Nya....

Annur EL- Kareem

haduh gak paham pake bahasa inggris hehehe